The Real Trophy

Epiphanies; they seem to highlight the greatest moments in our lives. They open our mind to what our eyes couldn't previously see. They put all the little pieces together and make the bigger picture make so much more sense.

This week, the Raptors became the NBA Champions. I won't bore you with an analysis of the game of basketball, or the games that were played between the opponents. Instead, the hours, days and probably weeks following today, are much more important.

Say what you will about sport. You may think it's monotonous, pointless or just plain stupid, but you cannot deny that it brings people together in ways nothing else can.



Triumphs


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The last couple days, independent of this major sporting event in my hometown, I've been caught up in personal distractions. It hasn't included anything dramatic per say. Instead, it's simply been emotions of lust, and hopeful love, that have clouded my thoughts. I've found myself checking my phone to see if he answered the texts I sent HOURS ago, or playing out in my head the events when I get to see him next.

I've been caught up in someone other than myself. I've started picturing my life with someone of whom I don't even know likes me the way I do him. It's clouded my thoughts; prevented me from sleeping at times; has even had me daydreaming on my way to work.

Something I cannot predict, I am putting my hopes into; putting my goals and dreams into. Yet I don't even know if he feels the same.

Today, all of that was lost. The doubt, the worry, the fear of rejection (yet again), all of it was forgotten. And all it took was inspiration.

All it took was strangers lining the streets of my hometown, to cheer on and celebrate the feat of our Toronto Raptors. The pandemonium, the joy, the laughter, was all it took to clear my thoughts.

People of all different ages, backgrounds, cultures and social classes coming together to unify this beautiful city. My "problems" couldn't not stand up beside the history that was being made.

My fears were put on a shelf.

My worries were stowed away.

My heartache was set aside.

All it took was unity for me to realize that there as such bigger things happening around us.

Bigger battles to fight, and worst people to worry about.

A championship like the one that just occurred for the city of Toronto, should be a reminder that life is so much bigger than the mundane thoughts that cloud our minds. Together, we all have one goal to strive towards, happiness.

The hours I personally spent talking, watching or reading about the Raptors' route to victory were never clouded by outside noise. Instead they brought inspiration, joy and hope. All of that happened because, in hindsight, my "problems" were not really problems at all.

I may never hear from this boy ever again, but Toronto will always be the 2019 NBA champions.

Tomorrow, this boy may not matter, but the Raptors will.

If my city coming together to stand witness can clear my mind of all outside distraction, than maybe I need more of that in my life to achieve forever happiness.

All I ask is that you pay attention to moments in time where your thoughts are not in the present. Whatever you may be doing, when your mind wanders off into Neverland, stop doing it. Get up and change your environment.

Let yourself feel out your emotions but don't let them have control over you or important events that may be going on around you.

Family, friends, events, those are the memories we want to keep forever. Those are the distractions we should be focusing our attention. Fears, heartache and worries have no place in our memories, so don't let them affect you beyond what is necessary.


Growth



This past weekend, I went for a leisurely drive and decided to drive past my high school. I drove up the road, into the parking lot. Next thing I knew, I was parked, standing outside my car, outside the front doors of my high school. And all I could do was stare at that damned red brick building.

I felt like I wanted to say something to it; thank it for keeping the person I used to be, on her feet when her whole world was falling down at times.

I also wanted to thank myself, for having grown so much since being that shy scrawny girl who walked of out those doors for the last time in June of 2015.

So many things had to go right for me to be here today, standing outside this building. But many things also went wrong along the way which made me feel like I would never even reach this moment.

Today, alot of my hopes and dreams have yet to come true. As compared to others, I have yet to experience many things, triumphs and tribulations.

I understand now, why my time was not than. And although I may feel like the stars are aligning for me now, maybe some years down the road I'll realize the opposite was the real truth.

Being wise is only a matter of whether we recognize personal growth as it occurs. It's a matter of self-reflection.

Although I still make some of the same mistakes I made when I was that shy girl in high school, I've made many choices of which that girl would have never had the courage.

I've put everything on the line at times, my heart and my body. I've been disappointed by some and heartbroken by others, but without them, as cheesy as it, I'd never the person I am today.

Sure the Raptors won a championship, and that's an incredible feat... for them. The bigger picture for me is simple to see now.

Chips should always come with the Dip.

Whatever your interpretation of this, now historic Drake, quote may be, I know what it means to me now.

I've grown alot, but as much as I try to convince myself not to feel for someone that may not feel anything for me, that's just who I am. I am not purposefully letting myself get hurt, I am letting my emotions be, in the moment. Regret is not a feeling I want to carry.

My triumphs will feel greatest knowing that every decision along the way was made because it helped my past-self achieve happiness, at the time.

I want to live in the moment, and that means to feel emotion for whoever and for however long it takes.

Holding back from being yourself, has not helped anyone.


Life

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Sports are not only games where men and women are pit against each other to win a trophy, they bring the likes of so many different people together.

Sports allowed me to "de-stress" and forget about issues, that I now realize, never actually mattered.

That being said, I had to feel those emotions, in the moment, to realize that today.

I may never hear from this boy ever again, and that's ok because until something proves me otherwise, my life will continue with no harm done tomorrow! The past is the past.

Sports help me clear my mind from the clouds. They help other people in other ways. Something completely different might help you clear your own clouds. But one thing we all share is the need to be happy.

It's pretty simple, so make it happen.


-Marie

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